Let’s Talk About Sex

“Let’s talk sex!” a middle-aged woman yelled down the 3rd floor of Campion Hall.

Not something anyone expects at 8 p.m. on an average Fairfield night, but that’s what everyone who attendedSex and Food” on Feb. 9 experienced.

The chocolate fountain and the array of fruits and snacks were only secondary aspects to the program. The most anticipated portion of the program was the talk about a dominant trend in college life: sex.

Jeanne “Mrs. D” DiMuzio, former director of the university’s Health and Wellness center, came to the freshmen residence hall to lead an RCC-sponsored program about the misconceptions of sex.

She didn’t criticize as students expected her to do. Instead, she put the topic into a different perspective, adding to her speech a few of her own stories.

DiMuzio recalled an experiment where men and women were asked to carry a clicker in their pockets. Each time they thought of sex, they were required to click in the number of times.

The end result?

The male subjects clicked about 256 times while females entered in two clicks.

According to a study done by New Strategists Publications, Inc about sexual behavior in the United States, “among women aged 15 to 44, [the] average age at first sexual intercourse was 17.3 years…with male counterparts at…17.0 years on average.”

DiMuzio mentioned that the statistics did not include numbers on oral sex.

DiMuzio then asked the attendees to separate into groups by gender. Everyone wrote down what displays of affection they preferred from the opposite sex.

Females, DiMuzio noted, wrote down phrases like ‘cuddling,’ ‘in-depth conversations’ and acts of ‘chivalry’—actions in nurturing and emotional relationships. Males, however, considered more physical activities.

DiMuzio also discussed the darker side of college sex, such as the rise of “drunken sex,” in which the parties involved consumed alcohol before having intercourse.

She said that no matter how it is viewed by the participants, the act would be considered rape in a court of law.

To end her lecture, DiMuzio warned everyone to have a plan and be safe whenever heading to unfamiliar parties.

DiMuzio is familiar with talking about sex to a younger audience. She has lectured to students numerous times over approximately 30 years, and she said that she enjoyed her time at Fairfield University very much.

“I was so honored to be asked to come back. In every lecture, I try to use a balance of facts, discussion and humor,” DiMuzio said.

Students reacted positively to the program. Henry DeMaso ‘14 described the session as “informative” yet “lighthearted.”

Resident Assistant Mary DiPastina ‘12 agreed. “It gave residents a way to talk openly about sex and relationships in a comfortable setting,” she said.

Published on February 16, 2011 in The Mirror

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