Let’s Talk About Sex

“Let’s talk sex!” a middle-aged woman yelled down the 3rd floor of Campion Hall.

Not something anyone expects at 8 p.m. on an average Fairfield night, but that’s what everyone who attendedSex and Food” on Feb. 9 experienced.

The chocolate fountain and the array of fruits and snacks were only secondary aspects to the program. The most anticipated portion of the program was the talk about a dominant trend in college life: sex.

Jeanne “Mrs. D” DiMuzio, former director of the university’s Health and Wellness center, came to the freshmen residence hall to lead an RCC-sponsored program about the misconceptions of sex.

She didn’t criticize as students expected her to do. Instead, she put the topic into a different perspective, adding to her speech a few of her own stories.

DiMuzio recalled an experiment where men and women were asked to carry a clicker in their pockets. Each time they thought of sex, they were required to click in the number of times.

The end result?

The male subjects clicked about 256 times while females entered in two clicks.

According to a study done by New Strategists Publications, Inc about sexual behavior in the United States, “among women aged 15 to 44, [the] average age at first sexual intercourse was 17.3 years…with male counterparts at…17.0 years on average.”

DiMuzio mentioned that the statistics did not include numbers on oral sex.

DiMuzio then asked the attendees to separate into groups by gender. Everyone wrote down what displays of affection they preferred from the opposite sex.

Females, DiMuzio noted, wrote down phrases like ‘cuddling,’ ‘in-depth conversations’ and acts of ‘chivalry’—actions in nurturing and emotional relationships. Males, however, considered more physical activities.

DiMuzio also discussed the darker side of college sex, such as the rise of “drunken sex,” in which the parties involved consumed alcohol before having intercourse.

She said that no matter how it is viewed by the participants, the act would be considered rape in a court of law.

To end her lecture, DiMuzio warned everyone to have a plan and be safe whenever heading to unfamiliar parties.

DiMuzio is familiar with talking about sex to a younger audience. She has lectured to students numerous times over approximately 30 years, and she said that she enjoyed her time at Fairfield University very much.

“I was so honored to be asked to come back. In every lecture, I try to use a balance of facts, discussion and humor,” DiMuzio said.

Students reacted positively to the program. Henry DeMaso ‘14 described the session as “informative” yet “lighthearted.”

Resident Assistant Mary DiPastina ‘12 agreed. “It gave residents a way to talk openly about sex and relationships in a comfortable setting,” she said.

Published on February 16, 2011 in The Mirror

It’s Easy to Know But Harder to Believe

Lindsay Wrinn '14, founder of new women's bible group

From Lindsay Wrinn’s room, you can tell a lot about the freshman’s personality. Her bedspreads are alive with vivid color, and pictures of friends and family adorn her wall. In all of pictures, she is smiling brightly.

In random places–on her desk drawers, on a bedpost, on a desk lamp–there are Post-it notes with encouraging sayings from well-known figures. On her desk is a well-worn Bible with colored  tabs separating the books, and on the pages are notes and scribbles in blue ink. She spends much of her time here at night, when she has the time to think.

Wrinn is the initiator of a newly formed women’s group, which highlights the fundamentals of Christianity and seeks to provide a place for women to reflect on and enforce faith in their busy college lives.

The first meeting on Jan. 27 started off slowly with stragglers walking in. A few were from Wrinn’s floor; others came from other residence halls. The initial greetings were the typical “Hi, my name is…” or “I live in…”, and everyone got a chance to introduce themselves. They played a short game of Two Truths and a Lie in which one person told two truths and a lie and the other people had to guess at the lie.

Wrinn sat Indian-style on her chair, which she borrowed from the common lounge, leaning forward while listening attentively to the other girls talk about their religious backgrounds.

A surprising commonality among the girls is that religion was enforced in their household. Many cite their high school years as being the time where they truly began to appreciate their religion. No matter their division or denomination of Christianity, despite the differences, the girls have come together to appreciate and enforce their faith in God.

Wrinn plans to spread religion outside of the church and outside of mass, and help others carry their faith along as they go about their lives.

The girls will examine the Book of John in the next few weeks. “Personally for me, John is my favorite. Right now, life is stressful.  Reading the book is a reminder that God wants to be part of our lives. He wants to be truthful to us,” Wrinn expressed to the members.

Others including freshman Delicia Alarcon agreed with Wrinn. “I always find something in my bible to orient me and make me feel better,” she said. “God is always there to talk to you, to keep you grounded.”

One girl added, “We grow up learning about God but never knowing what he said.”

After an hour and a half, Wrinn ended the session with a closing prayer. Her speech was earnest, and words such as “freedom”, “honorable”, “vulnerable”, “joyous” and “truth” were used.

“At the end of the semester, I would hope that everyone in the small group would develop deeper friendships with one another and have a deeper relationship with God. My desire is that everyone would continue searching through the scripture for the answers to life’s question and keep seeking God,” said Wrinn.

 Published on February 2, 2011 in The Mirror